HER STORY

My Journey

I’m not exactly sure where to begin. Should I begin with the two most traumatic experiences in my life offered before I was 4 years old?

At 18 months I was pushed off onto my aunt’s girlfriend and her husband. They couldn’t have children so they wanted to adopt me. I stayed with them for a while until it was revealed the “ Aunt Bunny” was unstable as she accused Uncle Teddy of molesting me and hit him over the head with a glass vase and I watched blood trickled down his face. 

Or should I start at the time my father banged my mom’s head against the wall and her teeth and blood were all over the floor.

Either way I think it is safe to say that my early life was traumatic. And it didn’t get much better. They thought that I was too young to remember and soon I forgot. I forgot that one because there were too many other incidents of violence in our home. Outside our 2-parent one daughter one son family looked perfect to some. The nights were the worst. I’d have to go to school the next day pretending like I wasn’t up all-night listening to my parents’ fight. Later in life, all that I had forgotten would resurface.

So I became pretty good at wearing a mask and by the time I had my own family  along with my own narcissistic abusive husband, I was an expert. 

Since 2005, my life has been a series of unfortunate events. I like to call this series THE THREE D’S. Death. Divorce. Desolation. 

Now here I am, almost 25 years after I declared HER HEALED EMPOWERED AND RESTORED. For 25 years I claimed this victory of being HER and it has been one roller coaster of a ride. 

As I’ve journeyed my journey I realized that I have always been a healer. Even in the midst of my own valleys of shadows of death, I was always uplifting others. While I initially found financial success as a Life Coach, I quickly realized that paying for my services is a luxury that is needed most by people who cannot afford it. Knowing that GOD has always provided for all of my wants and needs and that I never want for anything, I began giving workshops and presentations free of charge to the youth in my community.

In 2017 I decided to become a certified Neuro Linguistic Programming. I learned the importance of connecting personal development, improving communication skills, language and behavioral patterns and how to alter these dynamics to help achieve specific goals and most importantly results. I was excited to begin using my new found techniques to make money!

But in 2018 my real test began. I was suddenly diagnosed with Chronic Kidney Disease and was immediately put on dialysis. My life had been completely flip turned upside down. This was a very trying time which made me have to focus all of my new found knowledge and practices on myself.

ISOLATION.

Isolation was not pretty or fun. It was the most devastating and loneliest time of my life that allowed me to appreciate God’s subtle and constant guidance. Isolation kept me mindful of the present; not the past or future. It increased my faith  during  difficult and unclear times and strengthened my spiritual foundation; helping to uncover my true calling and potential while giving me the strength and courage to navigate challenging times.

I learned that  Isolation is not a coincidence. Isolation is preparation. A necessary part of growth and transformation.

Isolation helped me to focus on my  spiritual growth, strengthened my connection with the divine, while guarding me from distractions and noise of everyday life

Isolation will allow you to reflect on your life, understand your true purpose and develop a deeper understanding of yourself your emotions and beliefs. It brings a renewed  self-awareness, giving your strength to shed old unhealthy habits, patterns and behaviors allowing you to become the best version of yourself.

I found my isolation to be a gift that provided the time and atmosphere to connect with myself and God. 

 Kendall is a very compassionate and detail oriented person who gives maximum effort in everything she does. Whether being a mentor, a mother, or even a grandmother, Kendall has a heart of gold and is always looking out for her fellow human being. She is a class act as well as a beautiful woman with a beautiful soul. 

Earl Davis, Independent Marketing Director

   Kendall truly has a passion and a heart for people. Her ability to see and assess the needs of all walks of life, coupled with her prowess in the ability to define solutions that have lasting, positive, tangible outcomes, makes her a must have for any organization who operates in today's social climate.

Kendall has spent years in the Educational realm, standing out amongst her peers, becoming well versed in providing exceptional learning tools and resources to the academic population in the midst of challenging budgets.

Her added ability to track progress, analyze data, and explain measurable outcomes rounds out her extremely well developed professional skill set. 

Malik L. Boyd, Brand Builder/Connector

 “I have had the pleasure of knowing Kendall Hayes for approximately 5 years. A consummate professional with a diverse skill set, Ms. Hayes . offers her clients a vast array of knowledge, skills and abilities. One brief discussion will prove to be a blessing.
While unselfish and dedicated, she can handle roles and leader or student. Experienced and humble by nature she is worthy of your hire.  

Bob Shipman, Uptown Educational Development Corporation